Can a non-Muslim babysitter look after my child?

Trust matters most

When the Prophet ﷺ and Abu Bakr set out on the Hijrah, they hired a man from the tribe of Bani Ad-Dil as an expert guide, even though he was still a pagan, and they trusted him with their riding camels (Sahih al-Bukhari 2264). So it is acceptable to rely on non-Muslims for important jobs when they are skilled and reliable.

The Quran also commands believers to return trusts to those they belong to (Quran 4:58), and encourages kindness and fairness toward people of other faiths who live peacefully with us (Quran 60:8). For a childcare role, the most important quality is character. See Can my children have non-Muslim friends?

What to tell the babysitter

• Food: explain that your children don't eat pork or anything with gelatin or alcohol, and that you'll leave suitable meals and snacks. Give a short list of allergies too.
• Prayer: if the sitter is there at prayer time, tell them your children may pray or that older ones will go to a quiet corner.
• TV and screens: agree what the children can watch and for how long. Say that you want age-appropriate content only.
• Religion: ask the sitter not to teach religious practices, but welcome honest answers if children ask what they believe.
• Visitors: ask that no guests come to the house without your permission.

Most sitters respect clear and friendly instructions. Put them in writing on the fridge or in a note, so nothing is forgotten. If you're unsure about screen rules, see How much screen time should Muslim kids have?

Choosing the right person

Ask for references, meet the sitter with your children present, and begin with a short trial while you are nearby. Look at how they speak to children, and listen to your children afterwards. For older children and teenagers, many families prefer a sitter of the same gender, in keeping with Islamic modesty guidelines. If you have a family member or Muslim friend you trust, that may be easier, but it's not required.

Keep communication open

Ask your children each time how the evening went, and listen without pressure. Thank the sitter, pay fairly and on time, and treat them with respect. It is a good way for your children to see how Muslims treat everyone. See How do I teach my kids about halal food?